Kate Murphy – You’re Not Listening


“How well we listen determines how we love, learn, and connect with one another, and in this moment when we need to hear and be heard more than ever, this thought-provoking and engaging book shows us how. (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times best-selling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone)

At work, were taught to lead the conversation.

On social media, we shape our personal narratives.

At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.

Were not listening.

And no one is listening to us.

Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And its making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.

In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why were not listening, what its doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that’s full of practical advice, You’re Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain’s Quiet was to introversion. Its time to stop talking and start listening.

Author: Kate Murphy
Narrator: Kate Murphy
Duration: 6 hours 31 minutes
Released: 20 Jul 2001
Publisher: Macmillan Audio
Language: English

User Review:

leopard adverse

why listening is important and how it can make people feel. using listening as a tool to improve understanding and move you towards what you want. I’ll be reading this again for sure. seems like a book I’ll take more away from every time I read.